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How To Choose Your Wedding Shoes

All women want every aspect of their wedding day to be perfect, and although its your wedding dress that will probably be your biggest buying decision, your wedding shoes are no less important. There are so many aspects that need to be considered, and as youll only have your big day once (if all goes according to plan), its important to get them just right, from the heel height and the style to the colour and the fabric.

What with all the excitement, and it being such a long day, its most likely that on your wedding day your feet will swell up. Therefore its a good idea to try on your wedding shoes towards the end of the day to replicate these conditions, as feet tend to swell up as the day goes on anyway.

No matter how much you fall in love with a pair of shoes at first sight, its important not to impulse buy on such an important item of footwear. Before you buy, here are some of the aspects you need to think about:

Comfort is key
Although of course you want to look fabulous on your wedding day, you really dont want painful shoes to ruin your enjoyment. Make sure you find a pair that dont pinch or squash your toes  under no circumstances try to squeeze into the wrong size just because you love the style. If youre not sure of your width fitting its really worth measuring yourself as it may be that you need wide fitting shoes. If so dont worry, there are some beautiful wide fitting bridal shoes available that will be sure to keep you comfy.

Find your style
There are so many different styles of bridal shoes available so its really a matter of what best complements your dress and personal style. Court shoes and sandals are both popular, or for the best of both worlds you could choose a slingback that will give you the look of a closed-toe shoe with the adjustability of a sandal at the heel. If you have a traditional wedding dress, a lace up Victorian style boot is a quirky option that will keep your ankles supported on such a long day.

Get the height right
The height of your wedding shoes is so important as you will need to get your dress altered to the exact length to suit your shoes. Whilst a high heel is glamorous you need to consider how easy they are to walk in  you dont want to be stumbling down the aisle! Plus youll find a large heel puts more and more pressure on your toes as the day goes on and you need to be ready for the evenings dancing. A medium heel or low kitten heel is a safe bet, but theres no reason why you cant wear a flat ballerina pump instead. If your husband-to-be is a little on the short side, wearing flat shoes will ensure you dont tower over him in your wedding photos.

Contrasting or complementary colour
Its traditional to match the colour of your shoes with your dress. If you go for this approach make sure you get an exact match, be it pure white, ivory, cream or any other variants on the classic bridal colour palette. However, if youre going for more of a contemporary look you could go for a colour from the wedding theme instead. As well as looking more funky, it may mean that you get to wear your shoes more often, rather than relegating them to the back of the wardrobe when your big days done and dusted.

Fabulous fabrics
Silk or satin covered shoes are a traditional choice for brides, but white or cream leather wedding shoes are another versatile option. For brides on a budget theres no reason why you cant wear synthetic shoes as long as theyre comfortable.

Ceremonies In Muslim Weddings

Muslim matrimony lay emphasis on union of two souls and is known as Nikaah in Urdu. Muslim marriages may not be extravagant but are simple and beautiful.

The rituals of Muslim weddings vary greatly from Hindu weddings. The ceremonies of an Islamic marriage are:

PRE WEDDING RITUALS

Istikhara: It is the inaugural ceremony of the wedding that seeks consent from Allah to perform the marriage of Muslim bride and Muslim groom.

Imam-Zamin Ceremony: After Istikhara, the grooms mother ties Imam-Zamin, the silver or gold coin enveloped in silken cloth, on the brides hand.

Mangni: The families of bride and groom visit each others places with sweets and fruits. The couple has now started exchanging rings too.

Manjha Ceremony: The bride wears yellow clothes and turmeric paste is applied on her body. She is not allowed to leave the house after this.

Mehndi Ceremony: Henna is applied on the brides palms and feet on the eve of the wedding day while the ladies sing traditional songs adding to the festivities.

WEDDING RITUALS

Welcoming the Baraat:

Like in all weddings, the groom arrives the venue with his baraat and a band of musicians who play traditional songs. The groom then takes a glass of sherbet (sweet drink) with brother of the bride while her cousins play pranks on the guests from the grooms side in the wedding.

The Wedding or The Nikaah:

The actual wedding ceremony may take place at the brides or grooms house or some other convenient place. The ceremony begins with two Maulavis (priests) from both the parties reading verses from Quran. Traditionally, the males and females are made to sit separately in Mardaana and Zenana respectively.

Meher, the nuptial gift is the money given to the brides family by the grooms for giving their daughter. The amount is then decided by mutual consent between the families.
After the amount of Meher is settled, first the bride and then the groom is asked three times if they accept each other as husband and wife. The Nikaah is complete after the Ijab-e-Qubul (proposal and acceptance of both the bride and the groom).

Nikahnama, the wedding certificate is signed by the couple when both give their consent. It must be signed by the bride, bridegroom and Walis (fathers of the bride and groom) and solemnized by the Qazi to make the marriage legal in Islamic law.

Khutba, a sermon consisting of verses from Quran, explaining the rights and duties of the spouses is then delivered by the Qazi.

Dinner and Prayers:

The groom is blessed by the older women and offers them his salaam. Other guests shower wishes of long lived happiness and togetherness the couple. Dinners are generally lavish but again males and females dine separately.

After the dinner, the Muslim couple is made to sit together for the first time to see each other. The Holy Quran and a mirror is then placed between the newly weds through which they are allowed to look at each other, surrounded by recitation of prayers by the priest. This ceremony is called Aarsi Mushaf.

POST WEDDING RITUALS

Rukhsat or Farewell: The bride bids farewell to her family before leaving for her husbands home. Her father asks the groom to take good care of her.

Welcoming the Bride: As the bride enters her new home, the grooms mother welcomes her by holding the Holy Quran above her (brides) head.

Chauthi Ceremony: It is the fourth day of the marriage on which the couple visits the parental home of the bride and receives a joyous welcome.

Valimah or Reception: This is the lavish reception hosted by the groom’s family after Nikaah. It brings together the two families, their relatives, well-wishers and friends who celebrate the occasion together.

Muslim weddings can be performed at any time convenient to families of both the Muslim bride and groom. They do not believe in the notion of auspicious time.