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Brazilian Wedding Traditions

Brazilian Weddings are rich in tradition and culture. They are often very expensive and the bride’s parents usually pay for the wedding, but that is becoming less common because of the overall cost. Brazil is a Christian nation and, therefore, holds several customs similar to other Christian regions; however, there are a few traditions that are different.

Wedding Rings

Unlike in the US, engagement rings are not that important and instead the couple exchange wedding rings. The rings are placed on the right hand and then are switched to the left hand during the wedding ceremony. It is customary for the bride and groom to write each other names on their ring. It is considered bad luck to drop the ring during the ring exchange and is told that the marriage would not last if it was to happen.

Kitchen Shower

Unlike a typical wedding shower that is done in other countries, in Brazil they throw what is called a Kitchen Shower. It used to be a small gathering of close friends of the bride so that they may catch up and give gifts that the bride will use for her kitchen. However, the gatherings have been getting bigger and not even men are able to join.

Wedding Party

A Brazilian bride may wear whatever color dress she wants, but white is a tradition. However, it is custom to wear golden shoes. It is considered bad luck for the bridesmaids to match; therefore no two people are able to wear the same color. Unlike in the US and other European countries that pick out their grooms-men months in advance, in Brazil, the groom could wait up to the last hour before picking his. The wedding party is often three couples who are very close to the bride and groom, they however do not have to be in a relationship together.

Before the Ceremony

It is a tradition that the day before the wedding the Brazilian bride and her family go to a spa to take a break. There they can get a message, as well as do their hair, hair and make-up before the big day. However, when the wedding actually is there, it is a tradition for the bride to be at least 10 minutes late, for it is considered it good luck. There are times where the groom and the rest of the guests have to wait a few hours before the bride finally shows for her big day.

Wedding Ceremony

The wedding ceremony is done like most Christian weddings. However, some differences are that the bride has two flower girls accompanying her, one that distributes the flowers and the other one who is more like a ring bearer. Then the bride and groom will recite their vows and then switch their rings from their right hand to their left hand to symbolize the change from betrothed to marry. Most wedding ceremonies can last up to an hour, but at other times it could last even longer.

Wedding Reception

The wedding reception is a huge party that the guest and newly-wed couple drinks, dance, and give speeches. One tradition is for the couple to exchange presents to their parents. Often the bride will take off her shoes and place them in the middle of the dance floor. As the guest dance around, they will drop money into the shoes to help support the newlywed’s financial future. Instead of a wedding favor, it is custom to give a Brazilian sweet, bem casado (meaning “well married”), to their guest as they leave.

Wedding Speech – Some Rules To Abide By

We all love a good wedding – the dressing up, the food, the people you’ll meet and of course, the loving couple tying the knot.

But what about if you have to give a wedding speech or read at the ceremony?

Do you feel excited at the chance to share a story about the couple or do you tremble and feel physically sick at the thought of having to stand up and either read at the ceremony or worse still, have to make up a speech and give it?

But there are some rules to follow when you have to speak in public.

The first rule of public speaking is “know your audience” and we start from this point. What is the purpose of the wedding speech? At least a reading at the ceremony, the words are there and you just have to read them. That’s easy, isn’t it?

Whether they are your own words or someone else’s, the nausea and anxiety are the same. It’s like you are being taken over by this inner alien who doesn’t understand how humans communicate. Speech anxiety can be so overwhelming, you may not even be able to say your name if asked. So going back to our first rule – we are gathered here together to celebrate the union of this couple. We are in a gathering because we love this couple and they have made the choice to have us witness their union. What an honor!

Everyone is present for the couple. Not to judge your speaking skills or mark you on your speech. Take a guest who is doing a reading, we have to manage your body language and what goes on inside your body and mind and in this way you read with reverence. After all this is a reading chosen by the couple so we need to give it the due care it requires. It is not a test. So break down the various parts so each step becomes easier to deal with.

Giving a wedding speech is essentially made up of three parts:

1. Congratulating the couple, welcoming the couple.
2. Some anecdotes about the first time you met the bride/groom and including some fun.
3. Wishing the couple all the best in their future lives together.

That’s it really. Once we break down the actual speech, it becomes easier to get started. But the delivery must be in your style. No-one wants you to fail and I’ve yet to hear anyone complain about how a wedding speech was delivered.

The second rule of public speaking is practice, practice, practice. The most natural deliveries have been practiced so often they become second nature. By practicing your words, you are making them your own and of course, they are your words and you need to own them. By all means, use guidelines on structuring but it has to be how you say things, your phraseology. When you practice, you must record what you are doing and play it back to critique and improve. What can be better? Repeat, critique, improve. Repeat, critique, improve. You know this couple and they have chosen you to mark their day. They are making the biggest commitment at couple can make so let’s put your wedding speech into perspective.

The third rule of public speaking – do not drink alcohol to ease your nerves. Anxiety can metabolize alcohol faster than usual and you are compromising your state of mind with self medication. The worse scenario is that you get rude and offensive and in some way embarrass the couple.

The aspect I’m most interested in is body language. There is a point in public speaking that either eases you and you get the feeling “I’ve got this” or you get the “I’m screwed” feeling. This aspect varies from person to person. For some people, it is when they open their mouths to speak, that they hear their voice. When anxious our voice is higher and we talk very fast in an effort to get it over with. This aspect can be dealt with by a professional who can teach you how to improve. For others, it is when they stand up, that they can feel their legs holding them steady. Whatever your key to success is, it can be found, worked on, improved so that you have appropriate adrenaline, so you can deliver. The right amount of adrenaline brings your wedding speech to life, you can be animated and you can wait for the laughs rather than rushing to finish your speech.

Make your wedding speech one to remember for you, for the couple and the guests. Whatever your role, you can learn how to manage your state of mind and body. Control the body, control the mind and deliver a great speech. And remember to smile!

Whether you are the father of the bride, best man, best woman or just want to say a few words, don’t let your nerves get the better of you. You can learn how to deliver a great wedding speech and be your natural self, as ease. All it takes is a little practice and know-how on what to watch out for in your self talk and body language.

Become a Top Wedding Planner – 4 Tips to Polish Your Writing and Impress Brides

When you’re working as a professional wedding planner, you not only need to impress brides with your wedding planning skills and experience in order to get hired, you also need to impress them with the way you write. Since so many introductions begin and are carried out online through emails and posts on social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn, it’s important that you have good written communication skills. You don’t have to be a great writer, but you do want to write well enough for brides to see that you can clearly and professionally communicate with them and their vendors.

Here are 4 tips that will help you make a good impression:

1) Use a salutation in your emails

While you might not use a salutation when writing to friends, start your business emails with a “Hi” or “Hello” or, if you want to be more formal, “Dear” and the person’s name. Remember, an email is really a letter sent electronically.

2) Correctly use upper and lower case letters

I’ve seen Facebook posts where all words are uppercase and I frequently get emails where all words are lower case.

All uppercase writing makes it look like you are shouting your message. All lowercase makes it look like you are too lazy to change cases.

Neither is good. Your posts and emails should look like you gave time and thought to writing your messages.

3) If you text, identify yourself when doing it for the first time

The brides you are texting may not have you in their contact information and may not recognize your mobile number, so be sure you tell them who you are. (Of course, always ask if it is okay to connect via text messaging before you do it. Not everyone likes it or uses it, and you certainly don’t want to annoy your brides.)

4) Don’t use text shorthand in social media posts and emails

A new wedding planner recently asked me to connect with her on social media. Her email to me was full of text shorthand such as, “u” for “you” and “gr8? for “great.” When I reviewed her page on LinkedIn, I was surprised and put-off by the fact that she also did this on her profile.

When you are writing on your professional social media pages, don’t use text shorthand. Spell out words so there are no doubts about what you are saying. Also, save the use of smileys and other emojis for interactions with friends, they are too casual to use in business messages.

I realize that many of you are sending messages from mobile phones, but you need to take the time to write in a business-like manner no matter what device you are using when you send your emails and posts.

About Colored Wedding Dresses

Unlike before when people used to do weddings only in white wedding dresses, nowadays people do weddings in colored dresses. Are you planning of buying a colored wedding dress and wondering what the different colors mean? Here is a guide:

Meaning Of Various Colors

White: Although, people no longer restrict themselves to the traditional wedding colors, white is still the most popular color. The color signifies purity, cleanliness and innocence. When you wear a white dress, it shows that you desire a simple life.

Silver: It’s a rich, glamorous color that creates a soothing and calming effect. The color is mostly chosen by brides who feel uneasy about their big day.

Multi-color: Although, most wedding dresses are monochrome, there are some brides who choose to go for multi-colored or patterned dresses.

Grey: If you attend weddings regularly, you must have come across a bride wearing a. Grey symbolizes security, maturity and a neutral, non-invasive feeling. Research studies have shown that many brides wear grey in order to suppress their personalities.

While there is no rule of thumb that you should follow when choosing the color of your dress, you need to ensure that the color you go for complements your skin tone.

You should consider the season that you are doing your wedding. For example, if you are doing your wedding during spring you should go for light, pastel colors. If you are doing your wedding during winter, you should go for darker, deeper colors.

To ensure that your colored dress matches the theme of your wedding, you should do a lot of research and ensure that you wear the right dress. For example, if you are doing a renaissance-themed wedding, you should do your research and identify the colors that were popular during that time.

Types

There are many types of colored wedding dresses that you can go for. You should note that the different dresses are ideal for different seasons. These dresses include:

Sheath: it’s ideal when you are doing the wedding in a cathedral or grand estate. The sheath dress is also ideal if the overall theme of the wedding is formal. Since the dress leaves your arms, upper chest, shoulders and upper back bare, the dress is also ideal when doing the wedding during a hot season.

Bubble: a bubble dress is ideal when you are holding a casual wedding. For an ideal look you should avoid a wedding dress with bright colors such as pink. These colors not only look immature, they also tend to be too casual. To be on the safe side you should go for a low-key color such as brown or grey.

Sun dress: a sun dress wedding dress is ideal when you are a doing your wedding on a casual and summery venue such as backyard, beach, outdoor garden or regional park. Great colors for your wedding dress include: taupe, navy blue and white.

Conclusion

This is what you need to know about wedding dresses. To know the right color and type of wedding dress to go for, you should seek the advice of a consultant.